I cannot agree more with this article. Kudos to Oppenheimer for writing the piece without including any knee-jerk reactions, and to Dan Savage’s frank openess with the nuances of his relationship.
For me, it boils down to this quote:
“I acknowledge the advantages of monogamy,” Savage told me, “when it comes to sexual safety, infections, emotional safety, paternity assurances. But people in monogamous relationships have to be willing to meet me a quarter of the way and acknowledge the drawbacks of monogamy around boredom, despair, lack of variety, sexual death and being taken for granted.”
…Treating monogamy, rather than honesty or joy or humor, as the main indicator of a successful marriage gives people unrealistic expectations of themselves and their partners. And that, Savage says, destroys more families than it saves.
It takes different strokes for different folks, people. The all-or-nothing strategy is setting people up for failure.
I am happier than I have been in my life because I am completely open and honest about my needs—and more importantly—communicate that to my partners and loved ones rather than hide behind dumb societal expectations that were strangling me with its confining limits. THAT is the cornerstone of a solid relationship.
“I apologize for those who feel offended,I cannot deny a person, a human being, a taxpayer, a worker, the people of my district and across this state, the State of New York, and those people who make this the great state that it is the same rights that I have with my wife.”—Mark J. Grisanti, a NY State Republican Senator from Buffalo, remarking on his vote for marriage equality last night
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